In my opinion: NO.
Yesterday, someone found my blog by keying in “why is it ok to be a highly sensitive person if others have to tiptoe around them” into a search engine.
My first thought/question was “Why does the tiptoer even know that the person they’re tiptoeing around is highly sensitive?”
If you have discovered or suspect you are highly sensitive, why would you tell anyone?
Because I didn’t.
The people in my offline life do not know I consider myself highly sensitive.
I have never discussed it.
Only recently did I let a couple of people know I even have a blog. They don’t even know what the blog is about and I don’t care if they know or read it.
I write about high sensitivity for me and other highly sensitive people. I really do not care if non-HSPs understand it or even know about it.
I don’t think high sensitivity will EVER be considered a positive character trait to possess by most people in North America. (Elsewhere it may be a more admirable trait.)
But, that doesn’t mean it isn’t positive. I believe it is.
The power of high sensitivity comes from those who have the trait accepting it and leading with it.
It’s an inside job.
What does telling other people accomplish?
Once I accepted my high sensitivity, I finally realized I will always be triggered, bothered, irritated, annoyed, overwhelmed by SOMETHING or OTHER. Always. To expect the world and other people to change or understand me seemed childish and unrealistic.
I realized I’m not weird or spazzy. I’m just really aware. I just have to take care of myself and my sensitivity. I have to take it care of it. No one else.
What does that mean?
It certainly doesn’t mean telling everyone how triggered, bothered, irritated, annoyed and overwhelmed by everything I am.
It simply means saying no.
It means saying “I don’t want to do that, thank you very much.”
It means if a situation is overwhelming or overstimulating, removing myself from it. It means carrying my headphones wherever I go.
No tiptoeing required.
(And by the way, don’t we all tiptoe around some person in our lives, whether they’re sensitive or not? Or is that just me? I’ve always thought that when someone hurls the phrase “You’re too sensitive” at you, they’re usually being a jerk and they’re trying to tell you “how dare you be bothered by my jerky behavior”. Or, “You’re too sensitive” means “I can’t handle your feelings … or my own.”)
Since I’ve started writing about being highly sensitive, I’ve found that I think about it less. It’s less of an issue than it has been. I’m almost not even aware of it because I take care of it. I pay attention to it and it takes care of me.
I suspect that if someone has announced to people that they are highly sensitive and those people are now tiptoeing around that person, they might have a sensitive narcissist on their hands. Just my opinion.
The Highly Sensitive Person’s motto should be: Never complain. Never explain.